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Comparison to Others is a Recipe for Misery

company culture keynote speaker leadership mindset Sep 11, 2023
Jeff Schiefelbein drinking coffee in an old diner

I have no desire to be better than you.

I just want to be the best me.

My best changes from day to day, hour to hour.

My best is different when I am healthy, rested, and surrounded by people who give me energy. But even when those things are not present, I am still called to be the best me.

Comparison to others is not productive.

The only comparison that brings me satisfaction is to compare my focus and effort against my potential for both. Then I ask, did I show up the best I could in this situation? If the answer is yes, all is good. If the answer is no, I take a moment to inventory the situation and determine what needs to be different to operate with my best focus and effort.

But what if you truly are “the best” at something?

Perhaps you are the best salesperson at your company, the most talented musician in your group, or the fastest player on the field. What good does it do to be “the best” in any of those situations if you are comparing yourself to others and not genuinely challenging yourself to be the best you?

If you perform a task or demonstrate your skill to just be better than others, there is little to no satisfaction in the result. But if your focus and effort are the best you can give in each circumstance, you can experience the contentedness of being your best self, regardless of the outcome and the performance of others.

Stop trying to be better than others.

Just be the best you.

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